Elderly Care

Dementia, Caregiver, Frail, Disabled, Assisted Living, Wheelchair, Walker

In This Guide:

Caring for an elderly family member or loved one is an important undertaking. It might come on gradually, like driving mom to the doctor, or picking up groceries for dad. But as time progresses, it could be a more significant investment, like assisting with finances, living arrangements or end of life preparations. How can we minimize their frustrations or feelings of neglect as we try to balance all our obligations? How can we make sure they know they’re loved? Read below for some ideas. 

They Might Be Thinking:

  • Has everyone forgotten about me?
  • It’s tough getting old.
  • I need help doing almost everything I need to do.
  • I don't feel self-sufficient.
  • I wish I could get around more.
  • Driving is getting more frustrating.
  • I can’t do for myself the way I used to.
  • I don’t like going to the doctor all the time.
  • I don’t have as much money as I used to.
  • I am losing my independence.
  • I never see my grandchildren.
  • Everyone is so busy. I feel left behind.

Words That Might Be Encouraging:

  • We support you.
  • You can call me anytime, day or night.
  • Thank you for everything you have done for me.
  • You are leaving a great legacy of love and leadership.
  • I am the person I am today because of you.
  • You were the best mom or dad to us when we were growing up.
  • You are a great role model.
  • Call your friends; they want to hear from you.
  • You are not a burden.
  • We should schedule time every week to talk.
  • We should schedule dinner at least once a month.

Words That Might Be Discouraging:

  • You should just be happy to be here.
  • You have had a great life; stop complaining.
  • You have a great home; you should spend more time decorating.
  • You have high expectations.
  • You were busy when I was growing up. I have a busy life now as well.
  • Stop telling me how to raise my kids.
  • You reap what you sow.
  • I can’t hear you. Can you speak louder?
  • Can you walk a little faster?
  • Are you really in pain, or are you just seeking some attention?
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