First Time Mom

Pregnancy, New Mother, Parenting, New Baby
Curated By
Jessica Tanner

Jessica Tanner is a Marketing Director from Katy, Texas who partners with executives, business professionals, and entrepreneurs to grow their personal and professional brands. Jessica pursued an athletic scholarship to the University of Tulsa, where she graduated with honors in 2012 while obtaining her Bachelor’s degree in Business Administration and minors in Communication and Sports Administration. After spending a majority of her career in the energy and technology sectors, Jessica has developed a passion for marketing operations and creative content development with a focus on efficiency and customer centricity. Jessica is married and recently became a mother to a beautiful baby girl, Tomi Jo.

They Might Be Thinking:

  • I wish my partner had more patience with me.
  • I'd like to improve at communicating my preferred parenting style.
  • I feel like I am doing more harm than good.
  • I feel like I can't do anything right.
  • I am constantly worried that something is wrong with my baby.
  • What is an acceptable number of times to call the pediatrician per week?
  • I get nervous when other people hold my baby.
  • There are germs EVERYWHERE!
  • Breastfeeding vs. Formula?
  • I would give anything for a good night's sleep.
  • How much should my baby be eating?
  • Does my baby know how much he/she is loved?
  • I feel like a terrible mother.
  • My partner isn't pulling equal weight.
  • Does my baby know I'm its mother?
  • I am SO STRESSED all of the time. 

Words That Might Be Encouraging:

  • It is 100% okay to mourn your pre-pregnancy days. 
  • Soak in the precious time you get to spend at home with your baby. EVERYTHING else can wait.
  • It’s okay to feel frustrated and angry and sad. Both you and the baby will have these feelings. It doesn’t mean you don’t love each other.
  • When things get tough or overwhelming, remind yourself to take it one day at a time. Enjoy your baby!
  • Hold that baby as much – or as little – as you need. 
  • Tune out all unsolicited advice. Follow your heart and your mother's intuition and you can never go wrong.
  • Perfection does not exist, and chaos is okay!
  • You may not bond with your baby immediately and that is okay.
  • Don't compare yourself to other moms. Be uniquely you. 
  • That ideal parent in your head is a figment of your imagination.
  • Your child is a work in progress, and so are you. Accepting this up front makes any moments of disaster easier to handle.
  • The struggle of motherhood is real, but the rewards make it worth it.

Words That Might Be Discouraging:

  • Your baby sure does cry a lot.
  • When do you get to start exercising again?
  • It only gets worse as they get older.
  • When are you planning on going back to work?
  • Have you lost the baby weight yet?
  • When does your baby start sleeping through the night?
  • When are you due?
  • Ready for baby number two?
  • You're on maternity leave? It must be so nice to get a break.
  • Are you nursing?
  • That baby is going to be so spoiled.
  • Can I hold the baby?
  • Don't worry; I'm not contagious anymore.
  • Did you have a natural delivery or a C-section?
  • Sleep when the baby sleeps.
  • baby did this...
  • [Refrain from saying anything about the baby's appearance or size.]
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