Mean Girls
Self-Esteem, Insecurity, Puberty, Growing Pains, Gossip, Bullying, Cliques
Mean Girls Might Say:
- I don’t like you, because you are fat.
- I was never really your friend.
- I think you are stupid.
- You don’t know how to do anything cool.
- You are not cool enough to hang out with us.
- No one in our entire class likes you.
- We never liked you. We just felt sorry for you.
- You are ugly.
- You are black. Don't touch me.
- You have a funny looking nose.
- You have big [insert body part/s].
- You talk funny.
- You have small [insert body part/s].
- You're the weirdest person in the whole school.
- You are such a slut.
- You have to do exactly what we say or you're kicked out of our group.
The Bullying Victim Might Be Thinking:
- Everyone hates me.
- I am not as cool as the other girls.
- Everyone is picking on me.
- I feel helpless, hopeless, and out of options.
- I don't feel safe.
- If I fight back, I might get in trouble for defending myself.
- I hate getting teased about stuff that I can't control.
- I feel sad, anxious and unable to focus on my work.
- If I looked like everyone else (features or race), people might treat me differently.
- I am afraid of being physically attacked.
- I am afraid that my clothes, books, electronics, or jewelry will be taken.
- I feel sick all of the time.
- No one wants to sit next to me.
- I have lost my appetite.
- I have no friends.
- I am having difficulty sleeping and, when I do sleep, I have frequent nightmares.
- I don't want to go to school.
- My confidence is low.
- I feel like running away.
- I feel like hurting myself or committing suicide.
- Why me?
Words That Might Be Encouraging:
- I'm here to support you.
- I think you're amazing.
- If you feel uncomfortable with somebody's comments or actions, tell someone!
- How can we deal with this together?
- Keep a journal of your experiences.
- It is better to let a trusted adult know that you are being bullied, than to let the problem continue.
- Everyone deserves to be treated with respect.
- You don't deserve that treatment.
- I am happy to talk to whomever I need to speak with to make this bullying go away.
- Tell the security team. They must respond to your report.
- Talk to someone you trust.
- It's not worth it to be popular if it means you have to be unkind.
- FAITH BASED: What would God want you to do in this situation?
Words That Might Be Discouraging:
- You should just stand up to them and fight back.
- Tattling will only make it worse.
- Just ignore the mean girls that are bullying you. They will eventually stop.
- It's all just a part of growing up.
- Yeah, the pretty girls are always mean.
- Just avoid them.
- There is nothing you can do about it, except fight fire with fire.
- You’re weak, and you’re too scared to step up and deal with this mess on your own.
- They only bully you because they're jealous.
- Let's think of a way you can get them back for what they did to you.
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