Chivalry and Grace

KSBJ, I Believe in You, Empowering Women, Women, Men of Honor, Peace
Curated By
Joel and Luke Smallbone

Two-time GRAMMY® award-winning Christian pop group FOR KING & COUNTRY is led by brothers Joel & Luke Smallbone. Until recently, the Smallbone family was best known for their oldest sister Rebecca Smallbone who changed her name professionally to Rebecca St. James and became one of the genre's best-known female artists. Brothers Joel and Luke formed For King & Country in 2011. For King & Country released their much anticipated third studio album, 'burn the ships', a sweeping musical landscape that explores themes of new beginnings, forgiveness, hope, and love. The album’s soaring debut single, “joy,” held the No. 1 spot for four consecutive weeks, and has been streamed more than 12 million times. Their previous album, the gold-certified RUN WILD. LIVE FREE. LOVE STRONG. debuted at No. 1 on iTunes, and produced two GRAMMYs®, four Dove Awards, and a hugely successful 60-date arena tour. They have garnered four No. 1 hits, nine Top 10 hits, and had songs featured on the Emmys, Super Bowl, Sunday Night Football and other high-profile events, including performances on The Tonight Show, Today and Jimmy Kimmel Live! In October 2016, the Smallbone brothers released the indie film inspired by their No. 1 hit of the same name, Priceless, about human trafficking.

What He Might Be Thinking About...

  • Will women take advantage of my commitment to kindness?
  • Is chivalry a contribution to the feminist movement?
  • Being chivalrous seems kind of old fashioned.
  • Will people think I am "SOFT" for being nice to women.
  • Will other men and boys make fun of me when I open the door for women?
  • What are some of the fundamentals of being chivalrous?
  • What would Jesus do in this situation?
  • Is it really possible to be chivalrous in the 21st century?
  • What does it mean to be a modern gentleman?
  • Is chivalry just for men, or can women practice the same approach to humanity?
  • Will women walk all over me because I am being nice.
  • Is it ok to be chivalrous at work?
  • Will my chivalry be viewed as manipulative.
  • Should I treat women as equals?

Words That Might Be Encouraging

  • Every human life is priceless.
  • Live by a code of honor to honor yourself and your God.
  • Treat her like a princess and she will see you as her prince.
  • The coolest thing to woman is a man that can say no to the secular world.
  • Showing physical restraint in dating relationships is one of the most respectful ways to honor women.
  • Love like no one is watching.
  • Men of chivalry communicate by their actions, deeds, and words.
  • Women are not commodities to be disposed or tools to be used, but on the contrary, they are children of God
  • When everything is going against you, when everyone is making fun of you, whenever people are criticizing you, the decisions you make next reveal your character. 
  • Your courage to love without fear is priceless.
  • Treat her like she is priceless and you will be priceless to her.
  • Treating people with respect is key to being human.
  • It's time for men to lead with integrity and heart.
  • The bravest women in the world find the courage to leave bad relationships.
  • Leave a little sparkle of joy wherever you may go.
  • I see you dressed in white. Every wrong made right. I see a rose in bloom. At the sight of you.
  • If you follow the golden rule, you are following the mind of Christ
  • Chivalry is one of the most attractive qualities sought after in sustainable relationships.
  • Over the long-term, being chivalrous will allow you to live a regret-free life.

Words That Might Be Discouraging

  • You have to play the game if you want women to want you.
  • Women are only here to serve the man as the head of household.
  • You can't pay too much attention to women if you want them to stay interested in you.
  • You want to be the bad boy in the relationship to get girls.
  • You are too nice to women. They will walk all over you if you are too nice.
  • Women are just objects to be used for our pleasure.
  • Do whatever you have to do to get what you want.
  • You can't control your physical drive in the heat of the moment.

The Ten Commandments of the Code of Chivalry

From Chivalry by Leon Gautier

  • Thou shalt believe all that the Church teaches, and shalt observe all its directions.
  • Thou shalt defend the Church.
  • Thou shalt respect all weaknesses, and shalt constitute thyself the defender of them.
  • Thou shalt love the country in which thou wast born.
  • Thou shalt not recoil before thine enemy.
  • Thou shalt make war against the Infidel without cessation and without mercy.
  • Thou shalt perform scrupulously thy feudal duties if they are not contrary to the laws of God.
  • Thou shalt never lie and shall remain faithful to thy pledged word.
  • Thou shalt be generous and give largess to everyone.
  • Thou shalt be everywhere and always the champion of the Right and the Good against Injustice and Evil.
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